I got my surgery results last week and have hesitated to write about them. My hesitation stems mainly from frustration, sadness and probably a little bit of denial. I won’t lie, I’ve had a few breakdowns and I’m sure there will be more in the future.
What follows is some excerpts from emails to friends about what I have been feeling and what my next steps will be. Rather than type out my feelings again I figured it was best to post them here, in raw form.

washing away the pink!

This October echoes a different tone.

While in years past I would look forward to picking up a pack of pink peanut M&M’s, this year, whenever I see pink, I stop and remember the women I know who have faced (and are still facing) what the pink represents: breast cancer. What I’ve noticed more than ever is that Pink Washing”  seems to have taken the place of personal testimony and instead of actively advocating for a change, people find themselves enabling a passive reaction without even realizing it. I’m not against wearing a pink ribbon, because it does remind us of the epidemic that is breast cancer, but what I am against is a consumer-driven industry that encourages people to buy rather than visit, to adorn rather than mourn and to cash out rather than reach out.

Many bloggers, writers, activists and celebrities are asking: “Should we hate breast cancer awareness?”.

Could our answer be both “Yes” and “No”?

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who says…?

What if this month you could ensure you didn’t get your period, and it wasn’t because you were pregnant?

What if next month you could make sure the same thing happened?

And the month following that?

Well guess what, you can make this happen! Since the early 2000s women have been flirting with the idea of menstrual suppression. In fact women have always been trying out ways to offset or disrupt their menstrual cycle. History books reveal that women would dip their feet in cold springs, ingest weird herbs and participate in vigorous sports in hopes of missing their monthly cycle. Although we may find these remedies to be a bit far-fetched, these women didn’t have an oral contraceptive that would manipulate their hormones into thinking they were pregnant.

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problems with management

I recently noticed that my menstrual experience is rooted  in a “culture of I” mindset. I make my own decisions with what product I will use, the pain reliever method I will carry out and the activities I will participate in.

This “culture of I’ is very different from cultures that view menstruation as a social experience.

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the new “normal”

Some of you probably knew this one was coming. That’s right the infamous post on vaginal cosmetic surgery and in particular labiaplasty.

A discussion on vaginal plastic surgery is of utmost importance when it comes to menstruation because the two are inseparable and the way they are portrayed in the media play a pivotal role in how women view themselves. In my review of U by Kotex’s “Break the Cycle” social media campaign, I found this exact discussion taking place in one of their Social Experiment web commercials entitled “Rorschach Test”

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